Defining Your Beauty

Christ, Self-Love


The world has it’s own beauty standard: Arianna Grande, Beyoncé, Gigi Hadid, and Taylor Swift. We refer to them as “goals”. We have “body goals”, “face goals”, and even sillier goals that get down to the details, “eyebrow goals”. We talk about having these goals, but how often do we talk about our spiritual goals? Or goals that include God? There are three types of beauty:
1. Physical Beauty
Growing up in America would not be different from growing up in Asia. Asia and America have similar idea for the “perfect” body. Although the “perfect” body differs from region to region, the one standard that Asian countries have in common is a thin body and silky, fair skin. On the other hand, America prefers a thin body and smooth, tan skin. So as an Asian-American, what standard do I need to live by? Asia tells me a thin body and fair skin is pretty, but America tells me that a thin body and tan skin is pretty. No matter what, the world tells me I am not enough.
When Saul is rejected as King because he did not kill the Amalekites, Samuel mourned for his friend. But God explained why he rejected him,
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outer appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. (I Samuel 16:7)
In I Samuel 9, the Bible describes Saul as the most handsome man among the children of Israel and that there was no one else like him. Saul was rejected because of his heart and his disobedience, not because of his appearance! Then David was anointed as king. He had heart that pursued God.

How amazing is it that the Lord does not see as Man sees.

Physical beauty has no standard because it is measured by the heart.

Goal: See yourself the way God sees you. 
2. Mental Beauty

The world puts so much emphasis on the body but never enough on the mind. How can we believe that a woman who fears the Lord will be praised when we are constantly exposed to magazines, television commercials, and other forms of advertisement that are littered with exercises to trim down belly fat and super foods that will keep your belly flat. There are articles dedicated to looking like other celebrities. Articles about doing good works, being kind, and being a better person overall are rare. Being mentally beautiful means to have a beautiful mind. We must think on beautiful and good things, which means we must think of ourselves as beautiful. Everything that God created was considered good in His eyes (Genesis 1:31).


for as he thinks in his heart, so is he. (Proverbs 23:7)

Whatever you fill your heart with, your mind will be full of it also.

Goal: Remember that we don’t live to please men. We live to please God (Galatians 1:10, Colossians 3:23).


3. Spiritual Beauty
Beauty withers, but the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit is precious to God. (1 Peter 3:4)

The Bible mentions how beautiful people are, but His Word never focuses on their appearance. The importance of beauty is never mentioned in the Bible.

In like manner also, that women clothe themselves in modest clothing, with decency and self-control, not with braided hair, gold, pearls, or expensive clothing, but with good works, which is proper for women professing godliness. (I Timothy 2:9)


There is nothing wrong with being beautiful or enhancing your beauty with these things. We can take the time to curl our hair, match our accessories, and wing our eyeliner, but if looking beautiful and receiving compliments are the most important thing, then we will be disappointed. Beauty fades.

Redefine beauty. Beauty is good works. Beauty is godliness. The amount of time you spend getting ready should be equivalent (or more) to the amount of time you spend in prayer and study. 

Goal: Redefine beauty and what is more important. Your appearance or your heart? Accept your inner beauty because it will radiate from the inside out.

Take care of yourself. Love yourself like the Lord loves His church.

For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord cares for the church. (Ephesians 5:29)

If you could be two of the three, which two would you strive for?


2 thoughts on “Defining Your Beauty

  1. Beautiful post Jinny. I could not agree with you more. Modest is hottest.

    Without hijacking your blog, allow me to add one point about physical beauty from the perspective of a young Christian man. It is very true that “there is nothing wrong with being beautiful or enhancing you beauty with [braided hair, gold, pearls, or expensive clothing]” (Khantisouriya); however, as you do so, never forget that a faithful Christian young man believes “charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). Certainly do not spend more time on your physical appearance than you do on your intellect and Biblical knowledge. Also, remember one day your beauty will be gone (2 Corinthians 4:16).

    Do remember that, unlike God, Man can only look into the heart of others through their actions, which proceed from the heart (Matthew 15:18). In the case of a Christian man looking for a good Christian wife (Proverbs 18:22), the way you dress conveys your fear of the Lord; fear (respect) of the Lord comes from your knowledge and love of the Lord (Psalm 111:10, 1 John 2:3, 1 John 5:3, & Ecclesiastes 12:13). A Christian young man desires a devout Christian woman.

    Keeping this as short as possible, no Christian man should want a woman who does not adhere to the command to dress modestly. He wants her to save herself for him (Hebrews 13:4). Not doing so brings forth the temptation for men, even good Christian men, to sin; and, yes, men are responsible for that sin, but do not forget Matthew 18:6. I could go on about this very important subject, but I won’t.

    Plainly speaking, if you want a good Christian man, then use the right type of bait. Study the Bible. Answer Bible questions in class. Teach the younger girls. Be Active in the Lord. Live by the Fruits of the Spirit. Be thankful for the role God has given you. Dress Modestly.

    “The conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man” (Ecclesiastes 12:13).

    In Christian love,


  2. Thanks for your reply, Austin. I really appreciate your additional input. It is nice to know the the way godly, Christian young men like you see things. I can say the same thing can go for men about using “the right type of bait” to attract women (Brown). For a godly woman, the love of the Lord is the number one thing we are attracted to. Looks are just a plus. I also can go on and on about this subject.

    Looking forward to more of your comments.

    In Christian love,


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