Loving Less


When I love someone, I love hard. I invest so much of myself into someone that I forget about myself, who I am, and my purpose in life. When I love someone, I admire them. I take care of them. They are always on my mind. I shower them with so much love that sometimes I’m not receiving the amount of love I’m giving. I become obsessive and completely invested in this person no matter how they treat me. Love is blind.

In Luke 15, Jesus talks about the costs of discipleship. One verse stuck out to me. In verse 26, He states

If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple.

We cannot love our Lord if we love people. But aren’t we supposed to love our Lord by loving others and showing them Christ’s love? Jesus isn’t saying to hate, loathe, or shun those you are close to. He is saying to love Him more. Love Him most.

It’s hard to love our Lord when we are too invested in someone. We make that person our savior instead. We place them on the highest pedestal to realize too late that we cannot save them and they cannot save us. We end up in heartbreak and on the search to love someone else instead of seeking Christ.

Why can’t we love God the way we love people sometimes? Is it because He isn’t physically present for us to actually communicate through the five love languages?  We can’t invest in God the way we invest in others because it’s a terrifying thought to forsake and renounce all to follow Jesus. There are costs. We pay a price and pick up a heavy cross to follow Christ.

Our preacher asked the question: What did it cost you to follow Christ?

At the young age of 20, everyone is into drinking and partying. Did I just realize this? Sometimes I forget that it’s a thing. Actually before 20, people were really into the social scene. There are times where I thought about doing things just for people to “like” me. I don’t participate in activities that would tempt me to sin because I know that I would regret it later. The guilt would eat me alive. I think about how people don’t like me because I’m boring. Is there actually something wrong with me? We all have different interests and a lifestyle where I damage my body and my mind does not appeal to me.

There are sacrifices we make when we love someone. We sacrifice our time. We risk heartbreak. We make decisions considering our loved ones to please them and make them happy. We eventually give our whole selves to someone who can’t save us. The difference between God and people is that God can save us. There are sacrifices we make when we choose to love God instead of the world. It can be big sacrifice such as being persecuted for believing in the one and only God. People risk their lives to obey God while most of us have it “good”, living in a country where we have the freedom to worship God. Following Christ can be costly, but it will be worth it in the end.

Love God most in your daily walk, but don’t forget to share His love and Word with others, especially those who are lost, confused, hurt, and broken. They need it the most.


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